Holding the Space

So what does it mean to "hold the space"?

When I take on the role of a facilitator (energy healer, counselor, teacher, etc) it is important for me to also know how to HOLD THE SPACE.  

When I "hold the space" for another human being I fill myself up with love and compassion FIRST, as I fill myself up with these attributes I become these attributes, which then allows me to radiate these attributes into my environment, which in turn affects the individuals who share my environment.  I don't do this to change the others in my world, I do this because it feels good to radiate love and compassion!

As I radiate love and compassion, I am also ALLOWING the other person to just be whoever they are in that moment.  No JUDGEMENT.  In that moment, I am not trying to fix them, save them, or change them.  I am simply holding and radiating the frequencies of love and compassion the best I can, allowing things to unfold for my client (or friend, family member, student), without attachment to the outcome.

Holding the space is about allowing the other person to JUST BE.  Accepting them for who they are, without judgement.  It is about being there to support when they are ready, but not forcing the issue at hand.  And, sometimes it is about holding a vision of the potential of who that person can be when they cannot see it for themselves.  Again, not in an effort to change them.  But to simply look into their eyes and remember them for who they truly are...a beautiful magnificent Soul.

~Kathy McGinn, The Soul Whisperer