Before we can have new beginnings, we must experience the endings of some things. I once read something that said "you cannot write the next chapter of your life if you are still re-reading the last chapter." That is such a simple concept when put that way, yet can be much more challenging to put into our day to day practice of living.
Where we place our attention, energy follows. Where energy flows, creation grows. If you keep your attention and energy focused on what has already happened, you continue to feed the creation of those very same things. This is how we create repeating patterns within our lives.
If you want something to be different, you must stop looking at the past and keep your attention focused on what you wish to achieve, desire to experience, or who you choose to be RIGHT NOW. You must let go of your attachment to the way things used to be, and be open and willing to accept that something new and better suited to you will flow right to you as soon as you make a space for it.
Over the past few years I have been in situations that provided me with numerous opportunities to "let go". Sometimes I did so gracefully, without hesitation. Other times it was more of a struggle as I tried desperately to cling to what I had for fear that what I was losing could never be replaced. The biggest piece of wisdom I gained through these experiences was the understanding that the pain I experienced was not in the letting go, it was in the holding on.
Each time I finally reached the point of letting go, truly letting go, and TRUSTING that something better would come along, IT DID. Every time. And, it was always something even better than I could have imagined for myself.
The most powerful phrase I learned to use was this: "Bring me the best possible outcome and surprise with how easy and joyful it can be." I used this when I found myself spinning my wheels in my head trying to figure out the next best step. Or, when my emotions were running high and I could feel the stress levels rising. Or, when there were simply too many variables for me to "logically" work through to find a solution. When the awareness came that I just did not know the right thing to do, or action to take, I would say this phrase, breathe deeply, and then put my attention on absolutely ANYTHING else that made me feel good. By using this process I allowed my old way of being (me trying to figure everything out on my own) to come to an end. I made room for a grander, better version of myself to blossom and grow.
How about you? What are you willing to let go of? What can you bring to an end in order to give birth to something new? If you truly wish for something new to flow into your life, be willing to first make room for it by letting go of the things that no longer serve who you are in this moment. Allow one way of being to come to an end so that you can experience that new beginning you so deeply desire. There are lots of ways to support yourself through these growing curves, and if you need a guiding hand along the way, you know where to find me.